Eye contact during a sensual dance is very important! It is probably the most sensual part of the dance, yet for many… it can be the most challenging. The trick is to clear your mind of any negative programming you may have while engaging in eye contact. Fill your mind with positive, loving thoughts about yourself. Thoughts that make YOU feel expansive, sexy and confident!
Try Part 1 of this “Mastering Eye Contact” exercise:
Position yourself in front of a mirror and practice looking into your own eyes. What are they telling you about how you feel inside? Take notice of your inner emotions and how your face and eyes convey what you feel. Practice walking up to the mirror and then away from it. Continue to look into your own eyes and notice what you are feeling about viewing your own reflection. Don’t include music yet as it is in the silence that you will hear your own voice. Maintain eye contact with yourself in the mirror, think positive thoughts and train your inner voice to articulate positive feelings. Keep a positive message or movie rolling in your head to alter your intrinsic energy and project a new positivity to the world.
If you need help to get started, say “I am beautiful, I am sexy,” and repeat it over and over until you begin to see and believe it. Find something about yourself that you like. Your hair, skin, eyes, lips, nose, personality. Focus on what you like, not dislike. For most of us, this is a most emotionally challenging exercise. Keep at it, practice, begin to re-invent your relationship with yourself. Once you see the beautiful, sexy woman inside, you will develop confidence in yourself that you can share and stop looking for outside approval of your beauty and sex appeal. You can define this for yourself.
Stay tuned for Part 2 of this “Mastering Eye Contact” exercise!
~ Heidi Ann Crocini xox
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